Saturday, October 22, 2016


...Sometimes a woman needs a man who is a brother friend more than she needs a romantic attachment. She needs someone who is strong enough to say to her, "Say baby, the way you acted the other night, that's not right, or that wasn't the swiftest thing you could do." At the same time she needs him to be strong enough to say, "Hey baby that was so brilliant, I am so proud of you, you were wonderful...(by MAYA ANGELOU)

Saturday, October 15, 2016


This subject is so ambiguous because different people define happiness based on their mood per time.

I mean to a child it could because of the chocolate daddy brings home or the freshly baked doughnut mummy buys from the doughnut store. For a teenage boy it will be the 2016 x-box 360, it could be this or an iPhone 7. I cannot tell these days. A teenage girl is quite confused I would not know what she wants and in my days I was a tomboy so do not ask me what would have made me happy. For a lady it will be a wholesome relationship with a tall, dark, and handsome man and for the gentleman I will assume a legal, good paying job.

All of these could make people happy not necessarily true for everyone. I mean not all of us have this, but we are still happy right? 

I thought for a while and I came to the conclusion that neither a person nor a thing can create happiness. Instead it comes from within, so henceforth don't let anyone make you unhappy. 

The point is this happiness should not be brewed off people, animal, places or things. It should come from within you, because people would hurt, leave, get disloyal and this will shake you, animals will mostly pass on, for places you have to leave and for things they will definitely get lost or deteriorate. 

The summary of this all, is you have to constantly redefine yourself, generate a reason to be happy and never let anyone or anything define your happiness. It is your happiness, so take responsibility and make yourself happy. It is the best you could do for yourself, so do it always as God strengthens you. Amen

A verse to encourage you is 1 Peter 4:13 'But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his Glory is revealed' 

PS: I do not want to catch you without a real smile, I can detect if it is fake *winks*
PSS: Have a great weekend and remember to stay genuinely happy. 

My collage from home, to church to work all shows how happy I am. You cannot fake such beautiful smile, can you?

Friday, October 7, 2016

What is life all about?

Last Saturday I was woken with the call from my colleague that a lady who works with us in the state had passed on after been ill for about 10 days.

Ever since then  I have been pondering and wondering a lot about life, what is life itself?

Is it about the physical looks, the nice bum or upright bosoms?
Is it about the great job, the awesome pay, the foreign tours?
Is it about the beautiful girlfriend, later turned wife?
Is it about the tall, dark and handsome boo later turned husband?
is it about the cars, houses and fame?
Is it about power, politics and prestige?
Is it about family and friends?
Is it about you and me?
Well I might not have the answer for you, but for me I want to live in praise of God all the days of my life.

So many thoughts come to mind and I just wonder,
How Mahatma Gandhi thought about life?
How Mother Theresa thought about life?
How Nelson Mandela thought about life?
When Gandhi, Mother Theresa and Mandela lived did they plan to leave a legacy for themselves or it just happened? Well I think I can answer this. It did not just happen and if you keep waiting to have everything you desire to create a monumental change you will wait forever, so I indulge to start today to make something of life.

I hope the following questions will guide you as you begin to make something of life:
What am I most passionate about?
Do I want to be remembered by that?
What do I want to be remembered for?
What have I done today that will add up to what I want to be remembered for?

After a while ask yourself, what am I synonymous with?
Ask friends and family what comes to mind when you name is called?

It has to be something good and truly Godly.
I wish us all success as we begin to live for a defined purpose.