Saturday, July 28, 2018


Ever thought someone somewhere thinks of you in some way, making this affect your mood or your attitude.

Do you act weirdly to someone because you think they said it did something to you.


There are many things I learned growing up, from family and friends but one thing I must have learned myself is to never envy anyone like I just can't do it.

Early in life  I learned to pray for what I wanted and growing up I realized I should work in addition to my prayers as the holy book says in James 2:14 "Faith without work is dead" I know it helped me a lot, rather than envy I always complimented what I liked in a person. This made me happy and made them even happier I compliment and congratulate people on attributes and successes respectively.

I always thought it was stupid and probably evil to envy someone. I mean why would you envy your schoolmates because of what they have attained or are attaining, you don't know what and how they are doing it or the sleepless nights they are having, I mean you just don't know. What you know is, you have to buckle up and do your thing so rather than generate so much negative energy by envying, you should channel that energy to working hard being positive and living thankfully. A valid point would be you don't know who their parents are or the opportunities they have or whatever it is. Your path ain't their path, never forget this, therefore walk in your path truthfully. 

Or that colleague at work who gets raises and promotions, every appraisal period; do you know how hard they work or how many asses they kiss or how many emails they send asking and begging for undue appraisal. Sweetheart please take a chill pill and work truly hard when it's your time to get a raise you would maybe even out of that office. I mean who knows.

Don't you dare envy those married folks, they are praying as hard as they are working for their relationship to succeed, which it will by God's Grace. If you are ready for sacrifices, sharing, giving and going all the nine, then at the cost you are ready to get married. I will tell you again and again don't rush into it because sis B and bro Z are always posting awesome pictures on the gram, or because of the way Mr. K carries his wife's bag on Sunday morning. There are more things the pictures do not tell, more things the lovely videos do not reveal. They are praying harder than that public affection you see displayed. Marriage is sometimes sacrificing, loving, praying, communicating, leading, supporting and a lot more in between. So don't be too quick to envy them if you ain't ready to go all the way. 

On career advancement, don't be envious and angry that all your classmates have a masters degree and you don't, just hold on for it dear, you would get accepted to the best school there is, you will live that dream just don't get envious it ruins you psychologically and physiologically even deeper within.

Ohh! That boss that talks as though the heavens lies on his shoulder, don't hate or wish you were them, you are better than that. Let them ride in their high horse, work hard so you be a better boss to your subordinates than they are to you now in the near future. Be the boss everyone wants to work with, the awesome boss who criticizes in private and praises in public, be the boss other bosses wish they could be. Now that sounds like they might be envious of you, but you get my point *be the awesome boss*.

Writing this reminds me of a post I saw online sometime this week it read as this 'envy is the last class before witchcraftor something like that. It seemed more like a joke than a quote but when I reread it and let it sink I realized those words were not far from the truth. Have you seen what envy can do or has done? It has destroyed homes, it is terrible. Envy creeps in slowly from the moment mum/dad/aunt/uncle begins to compare and assume their child should be better than a niece or nephew or the child down the road. Have you seen how bad envy has destroyed friendships and families? That was more than a post to laugh about it was deep and the message sank even deeper.

Remember this if you forget anything else here 'Be the boss, friend, colleague, wife, husband, sister, brother, cousin, mother, father that you dreamed you had, be the one to be emulated not envied, be the dream person you always looked up, be the sum of the great mentors you have'.

When the thought of comparison that eventually leads to envy is about to set in, look back and thank God, just look back at all He has done and be grateful for all He has done. It could be hard but it's worth it. It helps you reflect and see how much God has done in the past this way you are grateful and it makes you realize that if He did it before He will surely do it again.

This bible verses can help, it helped me and it still helps me.

1.  Prov 14:30. A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones

2.  Prov 27:4. Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy/envy?
3.  Phil 2:3. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourself 
4.  Psalm 37: 1. Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; 2. For like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away. 3. Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
5.  James 3: 14. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15. Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice

Have a beautiful Friday and an awesome weekend.