Monday, October 28, 2019


Humans are prone to worry like we are not sorry. Okay, that was a bad intro and a terrible rap line.

A few weeks back, some friends and family had a few things to say about worry and the way it affects our wellbeing. The effect is obviously not a positive one, and it is important we stay clear of worry as it has no good thing to add to us. It is easy to dribble into that state of thinking endlessly of things that could happen and things that would happen if something was done differently.

Hey, stop that! Please stop stressing and thinking of the future you do not control. We usually worry about the future but have you realized that for everything you worried so much about your worried thoughts really did not change anything and you only channelled so much energy on what you shouldn't.

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A particular lesson from that time out discussing worry was what a sister said, which is "my worry in January is not my worry today". Then it hit me the more we worry the more there is to worry about.

Why not stop worrying and begin to cast all your fears on God? He is more than able to help us with our burdens and worries. If you thought so much (worry) about X today, if X eventually happens rather than be grateful we jump on to Z to be worried about. We become ingrates of some sort as we are living each day worrying on what we really do not have control of. So rather than wallow in worry, I will plead with you to glow in gratitude.

Monday, October 14, 2019

Growing differently

I recently planted 4 seeds in some pot and I have watered them daily and kept them under the sun but not directly under it yeah.

Every day I water these plants with an equal amount of water, they are seated next to each other so they obviously get equal amount of love from the sun, okay I mean light.

However, this morning I realized two were about the same height, one was out above the others and the fourth one was almost not visible, it was just there. It got me thinking and made me realize that we are each different and so our growth is also. Though planted on the same day, watered equally, kept under the sun for love and light. These plants will not grow at the same rate because they are different. I have planted kale, bok Choi, radish and basil. How can I expect them to grow at the same rate?

Well, not so for us, we expect things to happen to every one of us at the same time and season forgetting we are different in our composition. We are so different, we have different education, family, exposure, social class and a lot more other things make us different. Why then do you want to grow at the same pace as your neighbour? Your growth is you dependent.

You are unique, you are different, enjoy what you have that they don't as they enjoy what they have that you don't.

I made a video on YouTube.

Thursday, August 8, 2019

So many times in our lives we have been told "NO" to requests we thought we would get a "YES" to, it's okay to get a negative response to requests and sometimes it comes from people we were certain would give a positive response.

It is even more intriguing and maybe annoying when you do not get a "NO" to your face, however, you are ignored or blocked if the request was made online. I have had my shares of bold "NOs" and cowardly "blocks". It is never about you and it has everything to do with them. Sometimes those requests are not what you need granted right now or it could also be that associating with those people will only hamper your growth and that is not good for us, right?

For every "No" you have gotten recently, try to take a step back and ask if you really needed that to be "YES" right now most often than not, you would find out the negative response doesn't affect other areas of your life and there are opportunities, people and requests to turn to. These other people and things would have a good effect if not better than what we did not get.

I am writing this for myself and you.

Loads of love.

Friday, January 25, 2019

God's plan.

Do you ever want to do something that's obviously your plan, your desire and you don't want any interruption whatsoever from an outside force.

Well this was me 15 years ago, I had written my National Common Entrance Examination. This is the qualifying exam to secondary school in Nigeria. When the results were released.

My mum and I began our plan, it was to get me into the secondary school behind the house we lived at that time. I had enrolled in the primary school few months earlier to sit for the qualifying exam. So we thought it will be easy to get admitted to the Secondary school. We recieved a Big NO from the Vice Principal Admin, he said I was not posted there and will affect the quota system and all, but I could check another state secondary school in some suburb.

We picked our bags and dashed off to the other school. On getting there, we were asked to check the list for my name. My mum perused the list and I can remember seeing her frown while she grumbled that the students on the list had average scores and she was certain I was going to be a local champion if I got enrolled there. If only she knew she was mumbling those words a little louder than my ear's reach, that it caught some gentle man's attention. He greeted my mum and asked her what school I had selected while I sat for the exam. My mum with glee responded, Federal Government Girl's College Bwari, Federal Government Girl's College Akure and two other schools I obviously can't remember.

Well well, after that, the man told her to go to National Examination Council (NECO)'s office, she asked for the address and there we went that day. On getting to the office in Zone 4, Wuse, Abuja. My mum was asked to seat while I stood, We were waiting for the paper, which was also the exam result that had my fate... it was a long 5 minutes, like the longest I have stood. The man behind the table flipped the papers so fast it was almost getting finished and my name had not been seen, I couldn't hold it anymore, hot steaming tears rolled down my eyes uncontrollably. My mum asked why I was crying like she didn't know and I responded. My name is not there. The man quickly responded that it was, like magic he asked for my name again which my mum and I said in a chorus. He said here it is and you can imagine I was smiling from ear to ear with tears still on my big round cheeks.

... that was how I went to my first secondary school choice on merit which was also God's plan for me. 

Many a times we sway from east to west, north to south missing God's plan that is at the centre. We have the urge to go our own way but it is nothing like the original plan of God for us. I pray we have the strength to turn to God's will for our lives. Amen.

Prov.3. [5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean notunto thine own understanding. [6] In allthy ways acknowledge him, and heshall direct thy paths

Friday, January 18, 2019

God's mercy

Mercy has been the topic for the past week in my church.

It has been an awesome time learning this topic again. It's being taught like never known.

I will share some points from the lessons and scriptures as well. 

  • God's mercy brings deliverance.
  • God's mercy erases our mess.
  • God's mercy make a us messenger
  • God's mercy delivers from danger, disaster and imminent trouble
  • God's mercy is forbearance, it's compassion it's grace and love.
  • God's mercy turns misery to mystery. 
Scriptures : 1Chr 12:18, 1 Kings 3:6, 1 Chr 2:14, 9- 10 Matthew 6:31 2 Peter 1:3, Romans 14:21. Like 18:39, Numbers 14:19, Phil 2:25 - 27, 2 Chronicles 20:20 - 21, Luke 1: 50, Jonah 1:2, 3:1 - 6, Psalm 51 : 1