Sunday, October 13, 2019

Growing differently

I recently planted 4 seeds in some pot and I have watered them daily and kept them under the sun but not directly under it yeah.

Every day I water these plants with an equal amount of water, they are seated next to each other so they obviously get equal amount of love from the sun, okay I mean light.

However, this morning I realized two were about the same height, one was out above the others and the fourth one was almost not visible, it was just there. It got me thinking and made me realize that we are each different and so our growth is also. Though planted on the same day, watered equally, kept under the sun for love and light. These plants will not grow at the same rate because they are different. I have planted kale, bok Choi, radish and basil. How can I expect them to grow at the same rate?

Well, not so for us, we expect things to happen to every one of us at the same time and season forgetting we are different in our composition. We are so different, we have different education, family, exposure, social class and a lot more other things make us different. Why then do you want to grow at the same pace as your neighbour? Your growth is you dependent.


You are unique, you are different, enjoy what you have that they don't as they enjoy what they have that you don't.


I made a video on YouTube.


Thursday, January 24, 2019

God's plan.

Do you ever want to do something that's obviously your plan, your desire and you don't want any interruption whatsoever from an outside force.

Well this was me 15 years ago, I had written my National Common Entrance Examination. This is the qualifying exam to secondary school in Nigeria. When the results were released.

My mum and I began our plan, it was to get me into the secondary school behind the house we lived at that time. I had enrolled in the primary school few months earlier to sit for the qualifying exam. So we thought it will be easy to get admitted to the Secondary school. We recieved a Big NO from the Vice Principal Admin, he said I was not posted there and will affect the quota system and all, but I could check another state secondary school in some suburb.

We picked our bags and dashed off to the other school. On getting there, we were asked to check the list for my name. My mum perused the list and I can remember seeing her frown while she grumbled that the students on the list had average scores and she was certain I was going to be a local champion if I got enrolled there. If only she knew she was mumbling those words a little louder than my ear's reach, that it caught some gentle man's attention. He greeted my mum and asked her what school I had selected while I sat for the exam. My mum with glee responded, Federal Government Girl's College Bwari, Federal Government Girl's College Akure and two other schools I obviously can't remember.

Well well, after that, the man told her to go to National Examination Council (NECO)'s office, she asked for the address and there we went that day. On getting to the office in Zone 4, Wuse, Abuja. My mum was asked to seat while I stood, We were waiting for the paper, which was also the exam result that had my fate... it was a long 5 minutes, like the longest I have stood. The man behind the table flipped the papers so fast it was almost getting finished and my name had not been seen, I couldn't hold it anymore, hot steaming tears rolled down my eyes uncontrollably. My mum asked why I was crying like she didn't know and I responded. My name is not there. The man quickly responded that it was, like magic he asked for my name again which my mum and I said in a chorus. He said here it is and you can imagine I was smiling from ear to ear with tears still on my big round cheeks.

... that was how I went to my first secondary school choice on merit which was also God's plan for me. 

Many a times we sway from east to west, north to south missing God's plan that is at the centre. We have the urge to go our own way but it is nothing like the original plan of God for us. I pray we have the strength to turn to God's will for our lives. Amen.

Prov.3. [5] Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean notunto thine own understanding. [6] In allthy ways acknowledge him, and heshall direct thy paths



Thursday, January 17, 2019

God's mercy

Mercy has been the topic for the past week in my church.

It has been an awesome time learning this topic again. It's being taught like never known.

I will share some points from the lessons and scriptures as well. 


  • God's mercy brings deliverance.
  • God's mercy erases our mess.
  • God's mercy make a us messenger
  • God's mercy delivers from danger, disaster and imminent trouble
  • God's mercy is forbearance, it's compassion it's grace and love.
  • God's mercy turns misery to mystery. 
Scriptures : 1Chr 12:18, 1 Kings 3:6, 1 Chr 2:14, 9- 10 Matthew 6:31 2 Peter 1:3, Romans 14:21. Like 18:39, Numbers 14:19, Phil 2:25 - 27, 2 Chronicles 20:20 - 21, Luke 1: 50, Jonah 1:2, 3:1 - 6, Psalm 51 : 1

Monday, November 5, 2018

Water

Water we drink hourly, 
Water we bath with daily,
Water we wash with weekly,
Water we have in us always. 

Water we kill,
Water we kill, 
Water we kill,
Water we kill.

Water dies when you use CFC spray,
Water dies when we leave it running while we brush,
Water dies when you flare that gas, 
Water dies when you pee and poop in it (rivers).

Water should not die in your hands, 
Water should not die in your lifetime, 
Water should be passed to the next generation, 
Water should be clean, healthy and free. 

Water is life, make it live. 
Water is life, use it well. 
Water is life, keep it clean 
Water is life, help it last 

Monday, August 27, 2018

Not a block

Due to busy schedules of the main contributor of this blog, we have not posted weekly as planned. We did not have 'the writer's block' but we have carefully drafted awesome contents for your reading pleasure. 

The blog is also going to be upgrading its content type from the usual motivational, personal and story-telling to career development 

Would share stories and hacks from what we know, what we will learn and what you know. It is going to be a community talk so We will feature guest bloggers on here as often as we can.

We hope to get more interactions from you as well. 

Thank you so much for always reading and sharing your thoughts on how we can improve our content and delivery. 


Friday, July 27, 2018

Envy

There are many things I learned growing up, from family and friends but one thing I must have learned myself is to never envy anyone like I just can't do it.

Early in life  I learned to pray for what I wanted and growing up I realized I should work in addition to my prayers as the holy book says in James 2:14 "Faith without work is dead" I know it helped me a lot, rather than envy I always complimented what I liked in a person. This made me happy and made them even happier I compliment and congratulate people on attributes and successes respectively.




I always thought it was stupid and probably evil to envy someone. I mean why would you envy your schoolmates because of what they have attained or are attaining, you don't know what and how they are doing it or the sleepless nights they are having, I mean you just don't know. What you know is, you have to buckle up and do your thing so rather than generate so much negative energy by envying, you should channel that energy to working hard being positive and living thankfully. A valid point would be you don't know who their parents are or the opportunities they have or whatever it is. Your path ain't their path, never forget this, therefore walk in your path truthfully. 

Or that colleague at work who gets raises and promotions, every appraisal period; do you know how hard they work or how many asses they kiss or how many emails they send asking and begging for undue appraisal. Sweetheart please take a chill pill and work truly hard when it's your time to get a raise you would maybe even out of that office. I mean who knows.


Don't you dare envy those married folks, they are praying as hard as they are working for their relationship to succeed, which it will by God's Grace. If you are ready for sacrifices, sharing, giving and going all the nine, then at the cost you are ready to get married. I will tell you again and again don't rush into it because sis B and bro Z are always posting awesome pictures on the gram, or because of the way Mr. K carries his wife's bag on Sunday morning. There are more things the pictures do not tell, more things the lovely videos do not reveal. They are praying harder than that public affection you see displayed. Marriage is sometimes sacrificing, loving, praying, communicating, leading, supporting and a lot more in between. So don't be too quick to envy them if you ain't ready to go all the way. 

On career advancement, don't be envious and angry that all your classmates have a masters degree and you don't, just hold on for it dear, you would get accepted to the best school there is, you will live that dream just don't get envious it ruins you psychologically and physiologically even deeper within.

Ohh! That boss that talks as though the heavens lies on his shoulder, don't hate or wish you were them, you are better than that. Let them ride in their high horse, work hard so you be a better boss to your subordinates than they are to you now in the near future. Be the boss everyone wants to work with, the awesome boss who criticizes in private and praises in public, be the boss other bosses wish they could be. Now that sounds like they might be envious of you, but you get my point *be the awesome boss*.

Writing this reminds me of a post I saw online sometime this week it read as this 'envy is the last class before witchcraftor something like that. It seemed more like a joke than a quote but when I reread it and let it sink I realized those words were not far from the truth. Have you seen what envy can do or has done? It has destroyed homes, it is terrible. Envy creeps in slowly from the moment mum/dad/aunt/uncle begins to compare and assume their child should be better than a niece or nephew or the child down the road. Have you seen how bad envy has destroyed friendships and families? That was more than a post to laugh about it was deep and the message sank even deeper.


Remember this if you forget anything else here 'Be the boss, friend, colleague, wife, husband, sister, brother, cousin, mother, father that you dreamed you had, be the one to be emulated not envied, be the dream person you always looked up, be the sum of the great mentors you have'.

When the thought of comparison that eventually leads to envy is about to set in, look back and thank God, just look back at all He has done and be grateful for all He has done. It could be hard but it's worth it. It helps you reflect and see how much God has done in the past this way you are grateful and it makes you realize that if He did it before He will surely do it again.

This bible verses can help, it helped me and it still helps me.


1.  Prov 14:30. A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones

2.  Prov 27:4. Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy/envy?
3.  Phil 2:3. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourself 
4.  Psalm 37: 1. Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; 2. For like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away. 3. Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
5.  James 3: 14. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15. Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice

Have a beautiful Friday and an awesome weekend. 

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Offense

Offense and Offering do not go hand in hand even though they both start out with "Offe" in their spelling.

You should not give or take offense, even when people annoy you intentionally even if it seems right to scream or act out, please let it go. Just ask yourself is it really worth ruining that relationship for? 


I know it is hard but I have learned to keep quiet in times like this, most times it's not worth the fight. Some people call it silent treatment but the bible says it is better to keep quiet than to talk when angry, it also says it is better to be quiet than talk and remove all doubts of being a fool, this is paraphrased though, but you get me. 



Photo Credit: Pexels

We sometimes annoy people too, tell me you have never annoyed someone. I advise that as much as you can and as often as you can cut off any annoying traits you have *this speaks to me too*.

It is better to build bridges than burn them out. somehow we all need each other, let's not be quick to throw blames and pick offenses. Let us take caution when speaking and acting i.e in our speech and actions let not give offense to people.


Have a great Tuesday, stay safe, I pray God protects us all from the fiery darts of the evil and may we not give or take offense today and forevermore. 


Amen
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