Getting feedback should be normal, right?
But for some of us, it’s not.
If you’re like me, you might understand this tension. When you’re confident, you relate well with people, public speaking comes naturally, you read, you pray, you love God… somewhere along the way, pride can quietly move in. Not loud pride. Subtle pride. The kind that makes you feel so put-together that when someone gives you feedback, you see them as an enemy instead of a helper.
That used to be me, and honestly, I’m still learning.
The truth is, when you don’t receive feedback well, people eventually stop giving it. They’ll keep complimenting you, keep smiling, keep quiet, and never call you out. Not because you’re perfect, but because they don’t want to deal with your ego or hurt your feelings. And sometimes they’ll just watch you fail in silence.
I’ve learned that correction is actually a form of care.
For me, feedback isn’t about who gives it; it’s about how it’s given. If it comes across as condescending or harsh, I struggle to hear it. But when someone speaks with grace, honesty, and respect, I listen. I reflect. I grow. Even if I resist at first, I always go back and think about it.
I learned years ago about the “sandwich method” of feedback: encouragement, correction, encouragement. It reminds you that you’re valuable, while still showing you where you need to improve. And that matters.
Even the Bible says God corrects those He loves. Correction is not rejection. It’s proof of a relationship.
I’m grateful for the people in my life who are bold enough to pull me aside privately and say, “This wasn’t right. You can do better.” That takes courage. That takes love.
So if someone has ever corrected you with grace, appreciate them. And if God is teaching you how to receive feedback better, lean into that grace. We really can’t do life alone.
I hope this blesses you.
And if you can, speak life into someone today. 🤍
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